The incidents and the experiences impact our lives and build a perception & identity of our own.  Imperfection and impermanence is inherent to being human. Learn from them and take life less seriously. Fear makes us doubt our capabilities thus erode our self confidence and sense of self worth. Embrace your imperfections; no one is judging whether or not you are perfect. Life changes more than it stays the same and nothing lasts for long. Aspire and strive to be best but do not conduct yourself in line with someone else’s expectations. Human mind is deeply influenced by thoughts.  Control self talk that is self critical, remain optimistic and change your mind set towards a new perspective of life to win over the frustration & unhappiness.

 Life is beautiful and simple. People slip away from our lives like sand. Conditioned by the surroundings a person acquires a behavior one finds awkward. We form an opinion and start nagging too much preaching life’s lessons repeatedly. An inner sense of rebellion at being compelled to change the behavior, you are passionate about, quietly builds up suppressed feelings leading to pent up anger and aggression to express defiance & annoyance when feel humiliated. Silence & suppression of thoughts lead to anxiety, sadness & depression. Control repetitive & compulsive reaction, learn to ignore minor irritants and listen quietly to what other person tells, who may be lonely inside and struggling all alone. Expression of one’s conviction without being disrespectful & abusive avoids interpersonal conflicts. Acceptance of one’s emotional state, limitations & remaining non-judgmental avoids withdrawal. Don’t counter the rude behavior in the same spirit instead leave and take time out. Realization afterwards works better.  

 

Finding self in a situation that gives birth to anxiety and worry sometimes an individual instinctively overreacts. This aspect of personality is damaging for relationship and invites unwarranted outcome which proves to be painful & traumatic. Turning down an unreasonable excessive demand/expectation with a polite clear refusal smilingly rather than bluntly, interpreted as emotional reaction, helps calm one’s agitated mind to deal with the racing thoughts that elicit immediate distraction. Any activity/hobby like cycling, game, reading, painting, walk etc which is carried out with concentration and focus for about a minimum of 60 minutes provides distraction from the emotional and physical stress and calms down mind & body.

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The kind of thoughts you harbor, in fact, significantly affects your daily relationships with others. If you step into a social gathering, fuming with hate or bitter with cynicism, you drive others away from you. If you step into it bursting with affection for all & bubbling with optimism, you draw others to you. If you notice someone of the opposite sex with disinterest, that person will withdraw his/her own interest in you, if he/she has any. In fact, he/she might even turn disdainful of you. If you show keen interest, however, the person will be flattered & rendered vulnerable to your advances. Everybody enjoys being admired, regardless of whom the admirer is. If you face a person in business & harbor a sympathetic frame of mind towards the person, he/she will instantly “feel” that there is a common bond, & this will hasten &multiply your success with the person. If you face a subordinate & think kindly of him, he will instantly feel that he should strain to please you or show off his ability to you.

 

 

Living and interacting with positive people enriches one’s life with understanding, love and growth infusing happiness and joy. The uncertainties, unpleasant emotional experiences, other’s prejudices, fear of rejections & stigmas affects an individual’s self esteem leading to isolation. The alienation causes stress and adversely affects mental health. The interpersonal interactions sharing concerns with loving & kind people are encouraging and empowering for a personal transformation. Infuse your life with greater joy by confiding in people who listen to you in a non biased manner with care & respect maintaining your privacy.

 

Holding on to the hurt caused by an action/activity, called resentment, erodes peace of mind and is an impediment in personal growth & Joy. Assigning blame relentlessly to someone or something responsible for the pain inflicted does not let one find an outlet to the anger which causes great turmoil in life. It is difficult to successfully divest self of resentful feelings but choosing to let it go voluntarily helps in easing the feeling of pain & suffering. Make an effort to shift your attention from those you resent back toward self to move on with lives.

 

The provocations and inner conflicts lead to anger. One imbibes hatred for others while witnessing violent behavior. One needs to understand that behavioral differences develop solely due to one’s life experiences and respecting others opinion helps one refrain from getting into arguments that destroy inner peace. Learn to rise above the differences, learn from mistakes in the past & focus on self growth, enhance tolerance levels and be kind to each other.

 

Feeling scared in the challenging & complicated times while questioning where current events are headed, how bad is it going to get & how it will affect you. You are caught up in nervousness thinking something bad will happen, which you perpetuate through your traumatic imagination. There is nothing wrong with being afraid as long as we do not let it stop us from doing the things that excite. Frame your thoughts a little differently to shift your mental state from one of resistance to one of openness effecting energy shift from fear, which paralyzes, to excitement. It shall empower you to direct all the energy towards moving forward, growing & learning. Refuse to struggle against it by putting on a false bravado & insisting you're not nervous at all. Instead move forward past the fear without paying any attention, as though it doesn't exist, to the negative state at all. Trust and assure self in your ability to handle challenges. Excitement, curiosity, passion rather than anxiety shall help and inspire you to be more comfortable with fear.

The repercussion of repeated unwarranted aggressive behavior of a child is highly damaging. The instant gratification and a pseudo sense of superiority, authority & pride leaves ever lasting impact on the mind of child. This disgraceful act of foolishness and whimsical thinking needs to be nipped in bud before it develops into an attachment to one's false image of dominance, the negative energy of fear sometimes turning violent seeking attention & respect from others. There is no harm in confronting the child then and there making him/her understand as to what is wrong with ill treatment of peers.

 

A person at war with own thoughts, mind says something but heart wants something different, is not satisfied, happy & at peace thus drifts away, feels disrespected, misused & hurt. The importance of self-esteem, life goal, family, values, peace of mind and unique identity for an individual defines his/her indulgence in self-love & self-care. Look deep within the person, love their purity, lovely gestures, genuineness and kindness, one day you shall find what you are looking for. Try to build a future fighting against all odds together keeping faith in each other and prosper. The loyalty and understanding, sparing time for each other, providing lots of care & unconditional love, mutual respect, sincere discussion & resolving issues together develops bond for longevity the basis of healthy relationship.

 

Happiness is the key, never nurture regrets in life. Accept your past and move on for a better life. Think what is good & beneficial for you and change the way you think. Believe in yourself and focus on your strengths, courage and perseverance. Change your perception, affinity & empathy for others, gratitude & thankfulness helps in better reasoning of things. Life is beautiful, be optimistic, take control of your life for a rejoiceful and fruitful living.

 

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Exercise to increase focus and concentration... To use your mind effectively, you must learn to concentrate & the route to concentration is through paying attention. The following exercise, adapted from the writings of William Walker Atkinson, is very powerful in learning how to pay attention. Take a simple object with which you are familiar & give it your full attention for a few minutes. Study the object & endeavor to see as many details as possible in it. Take a break & then come back to the object & this time look for new details that you missed. Carry on repeating this process until you have discovered everything about the object. Do not fool yourself into thinking you have seen all the details at once. Rather, will yourself to discover more.

 

Exercise to increase focus and concentration... To use your mind effectively, you must learn to concentrate & the route to concentration is through paying attention. The following exercise, adapted from the writings of William Walker Atkinson, is very powerful in learning how to pay attention. Take a simple object with which you are familiar & give it your full attention for a few minutes. Study the object & endeavor to see as many details as possible in it. Take a break & then come back to the object & this time look for new details that you missed. Carry on repeating this process until you have discovered everything about the object. Do not fool yourself into thinking you have seen all the details at once. Rather, will yourself to discover more.

 

Relationship is a natural phenomenon nurtured with ethics of compassion and care rather than disenchantment. The ecstasy of love and connectedness inspires one to overcome the psychology of doubts & fear, an obstacle to evolutionary journey. Individual differences will always be there, adapt and bring change in life to protect and preserve the relationship. Let it grow with time. Never feel disheartened, because everything happens for a reason. We cannot argue with destiny, but we can make our own fate.

 

Friends, a variety of them, enter life during course of growing up and some part company leaving behind a bag of mixed emotions varying from being happy, to anxious, to completely broken down. Be natural, observe struggles, good & bad times, life experiences, to absorb and influence evolvement as a happy human being to live life to the fullest.

 

Relationships thrive on honesty, communication, mutual caring, and time spent together. Loosing relationship leaves behind an emptiness that is overwhelming and the feelings of pain, loss & separation are difficult to bear. Maintaining & holding on to relationship that doesn't feel right, languishing in feelings of anger or resentment, investing time & energy attempting to fix the problem believing it will eventually change is quite stressful and draining. Consider whether the other person truly considers your feelings or if they are willing to change their behavior. While every relationship has its ups and downs, when there are more downs than ups or the two of you are bringing out the worst in each other, it may be time to ask yourself what you really want from the relationship. Be honest with yourself & your answers, even if the truth is painful. One may be afraid of hurting the other person or feel insecure but when relationship, no matter how passionate, adversely affects well-being and health, sever the connection. Ending such toxic relationship gives a chance to rediscover own interests, explore new passions, meet different people and nurture new relationship in the future.

 

The insecurities and vagaries of life impact so immensely, that the concerns, apprehensions & unfounded fear increase the level of anxiety beyond control. Psychologists & psychotherapists aid & skill the individuals, facing dangerous predicament, arrest their sufferings due to the unchecked anxiety. Shove away societal inhibitions and reach out to them at the earliest.