Suffering from emotionally unpleasant experiences.

An individual suffers discomfort from suppressing one’s true identity. He/She must get the real sense of self -identity; other’s prejudices must not hold importance in one’s life. The prevailing uncertainties in life give birth to worries that cause discomfort, always keep your mind engaged in challenging activity with clear achievable goals to create a state of flow (state of mind) to disengage from likely emotionally unpleasant experiences. 

Do you never feel good enough?

Do you never feel good enough? Are you struggling with emotional coming of age and associated drama unfolding in the journey of questioning every aspect of your own identity to reach a state of self acceptance? You do not value self and taken a path of self destruction.  You need to understand life is certainly not a straight line, there are ups and downs. Every one deals with it at some point of time in life. A therapist helps you understand that the problems are common/general in nature and not affecting only you. He / She assists in finding your emotional vocabulary that guides and provides direction to deal with everyday struggles. It is hard work and there are no shortcuts to heal yourself on the path to recovery from your emotional ailments.

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Blame game causes irreparable damage to relationships.

Blame game causes irreparable damage to relationships.

Generally a natural reaction, a common negative habit, in a conflict is to blame the other. The reason being we carry & have an image of ourselves as the one who can never do anything wrong or incorrect and as such is never at fault. We identify with this internal image completely and are deeply attached to it. The fear of loss or harm to this internal image, we are deeply in love with, in case we admit our mistakes, makes a person play the blame game to save face & gain temporary respect, even if it is at the expense of someone loosing face & being disrespected. This image, which is so defined in spiritual language, is called reputation in common language. The Law of Karma, though, does catch up sooner or later with such a person and with such behavior. Being honest may cause temporary harm to the internal image or reputation, but one remains safe according to karmic principles in the long run & the temporary harm, if any, is undone & respect regained. 

Laughter is the best medicine for mind and body

Laughter is the best medicine for mind and body. Laughing is natural but the frequency decreases with age as you grow up and become less natural.

Benefits

There is no other medicine more economical than this.

It decreases the risk of getting stressed and depression.

It increases the quantum of friendly Cholesterol.

It increases the anti-bodies production, thus increases immunity.

Loud laughter energizes our nerves, intestine, lungs &throat and flow of blood.

Laughter changes silence of eyes into vibrant language.

Laughter fills lips with magic.

Happy people live longer.

Advisable tips

Retain and store all the positive thoughts, positive techniques in your mind and use them liberally according to your need and time at your disposal. Indulge in your hobby, exercise regularly, build friendships, listen to music and enjoy humour. This approach will always keep you happy.

Feeling low or stressed

You find someone very close/loved one feeling low or stressed, it’s time to extend support. Be concerned and initiate conversation to enable person evaluate his/her life, experiences, abilities, be aware about self, express feelings and vent out pent-up emotions to help lighten the burden.  Listen, do not judge, express genuine concern, provide emotional support with empathy & understanding to help cope in a better way with his/her feeling of  helplessness & hopelessness Encourage the person to seek timely professional help for a healthy and happy future.  

Self confidence - an inner powerful and strong belief

Self confidence, an inner powerful and strong belief, helps you face successfully a situation beyond your control. Past failures, an environment with negative people, wrong assumptions & beliefs, emotional & physical state do lowers one’s self confidence.  It solely depends on the way an individual takes care of himself/herself internally. Watch your words, these reflect your innerself. Self talk, habitual negative talk or cribbing, needs to be urgently arrested and changed. Be grateful for all that you have achieved, big or small, and tap each opportunity with a belief that you can and deserve every chance to grow, prosper and flourish. Spend more time with people having positive mindset, optimistic and constructive approach to life.  Build, develop and maintain self confidence. Collaborate with people sharing same goal and vision to boost self confidence level.

Handle with care

Handle with care

Depression causes suffocating and detrimental severe emotional and physiological problems. It drains an individual’s energy and self-esteem. The feeling of worthlessness, despair & hopelessness shatters self-confidence resulting in his/her less socialization, isolation and loneliness resulting in depression taking over. Family support is crucial to help them tackle this phase in life.  Counseling among others is one of the effective treatment options.    

Self-worth --- crucial factor of paramount importance

Importance of self worth

Self worth is of paramount importance and crucial factor in tackling depression and anxiety. One creates a belief, over a period as one grows, about one’s identity and impression. Never compare self with others, neither seek gratification/approval nor opt for a false escape from reality. Focusing on one’s achievements howsoever little and celebrating them strengthens a positive belief about his/her self-worth. Spending time with people who inspire, motivate and respect gives a fillip to self-worth. Regularly introspect your emotions and behavior, try to get better than before and live up to your own expectations.  Seek help from friends, family or professional.   

Importance of Anger Management

Importance of Anger Management  

Anger is suffering, hurt, ruining of relationships and self punishing. It causes heartache & regret. When we are angry at some unexpected upsetting behavior, it temporarily generates a powerful false sense of ourselves taking control over it. The raging thought of having being wronged is an image within our mind that makes us get angry and our out of control emotional/physical outbursts lead to destruction and pain. Consider the hostile state as foreign to your true nature. Realize, recognize and be aware of its destructive, pain inflicting nature instead of the temporary powerlessness and take the hostile state lightly.

Life is present moment – your past & future is delusional that inflicts pain.

Regrets of the past, worries about the future and being judgmental annihilates the present from our lives. Accept & Focus on present condition, be objective & get rid of stressful thoughts, concentrate on current activity, be fully aware of your behavior and reactions, understand its impact on state of mind, embrace the reality, live in present moment for a happy, joyful and de-stressed life.

Greater Joys of life

Happiness

Our state of mind i.e calmness, peacefulness, quietness gets disturbed by our living in the narrow confines of boundaries, limitations we assign to the concept of our happiness while busy fighting the odds/challenges of daily life. The constant comparisons, running after materialistic things, the weaknesses, guilt leads to unhappy state of mind. Happiness lies in the greater joys of life found in your creativity, strengths, simple living, affirmation to be happy and beauty of nature.

Forgive and Move on

Forgive and Move on

The resentment and regret at being taken undue advantage of, a feeling none is sincere to you and the disappointment at not being recognized & appreciated for your help by one’s loved ones builds anger and often pushes one away from them. The false pride creates differences and leads to isolation. Do not let it happen. Learn to forgive, appreciate what you have and move on in life.