Healthy relationship demands empathy, understanding and compromise. Arguments, disagreements and conflicts between partners under stressful conditions results in aggression & violence. The tendency of negative interactions can be minimized if one re-frames thoughts & feelings about the differences from the view point of a neutral third party. Interaction with a professional, whom one can count on to listen when one needs to talk, is a dependable social support that benefits & helps one’s mind to function better and more objectively. 

Nothing is constant. The pain & desperation born out of adversity forces one to self-reflect and re-look at life. Committing mistakes is part of growing up but the dynamics of life demands conviction, confidence in self, appreciation & encouragement by people who matter to lead a life of endurance & perseverance to be at peace.

 

 

A child with passage of time may forget what you said or did but shall never forget how you made them feel. Asserting self assumed supremacy over child with total disregard for their self respect, dignity and feelings make them loose self esteem. Compassion has tremendous physical & mental benefits, accepting the child with open arms is inspiring and strengthens the resolve to stand resolutely against any adversity.

 

In case you find yourself continually irritable around a person or persons, or getting angry and defensive with them, try to limit your interactions with these people as much as possible. These people may be carrying excessive negative energy & actively envisioning and wishing you failure thus casting a negative spell on your energy making you vulnerable to psychic attacks. An extensive Psychic attack can be very devastating and left unchecked, result in the following:

·         Depression

·         Anxiety

·         Illness

·         Accidents

·         Job Loss

Choose to be around people who uplift your spirit.

 

Happiness, a state of mind - calm, peaceful & quiet, lies in the greater joys of life found in one’s creativity, beauty of nature, strengths, simple living & affirmation to be happy. The constant comparisons, running after materialistic things, the weaknesses, failures, guilt etc, leads to unhappy state of mind. The narrow confines of boundaries & limitations assigned to the concept of happiness while busy fighting the challenges of daily life disturbs one’s state of mind. Only patience & resilience helps in evolving one’s best self. 

 

Individuality sets one apart from the crowd. The attitude of being unabashedly confident of leading life of one’s choice helps one embrace self unapologetically despite the criticism on any aspect of life. Scrolling through content on social media pages every now and then; forces one to start comparing self to others; thus distracts & diverts one from own real priorities.  Focus on people around for inspiration; take a break from social media.

 

Encourage the children to just do what comes to them with ease. Do not bother them seeking perfection let them make mistakes. Accept their inabilities & vulnerabilities that when not acknowledged result in anxiety. Relax nothing is worth being stressed just let them finish their activity. A gentle & nurturing parent is one who is polite & respectful in manner, supportive of child’s needs and helps acquire new ways to manage & cope with the disruptive turbulence in mind. 

 

It is natural to experience people around change their behavior according to how well one is doing. Let it not affect your emotional well being. Always have a goal, staying consistent in your efforts to sustain path to success helps in struggling days. Stay happy, contended and grateful for what you have achieved so far.

Teenagers’ wanting their space exhibit rude & violent behavior in response to parent’s repeated directives over study, upkeep of room, time spent on mobile or the friends they keep. They rebel and react with brazenness to express defiance when feel humiliated by the use of adjectives like useless, pathetic, good for nothing fellow. Ignore minor irritants and show basic respect to child irrespective of the age to avoid impolite response. Value their individuality, regularly spare & spend time to discuss and encourage them to achieve set goal. Regularly acknowledge, recognize, appreciate and reward their initiatives & efforts to keep them motivated and happily engaged in learning process to grow and have an everlasting bond.

 

 Maintain & keep distance from a person whom you cannot trust and who generates a lot of anger & hatred, the negative thoughts, and affects yourself. The influence of one’s particular action motivated by thought, intention & attitude is either beneficial or negative & affects destiny. Negative influence makes one feel depressed.

 

Efforts put in with complete dedication, commitment, focus & concentration leads you to an incredibly proud moment & a feeling nothing can beat. The emotion one experiences brings tears of joy.  

. “Lonely is not being alone, it’s a feeling that no one cares. You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you got a bunch of things to talk about and no one to talk to.”

 

 

Calm, relaxed, restless, anxious, confident, unsure, envious, grateful are the different aspects of a human personality and is dependent on one’s perceptions & reactions. Impatience is expecting instant gratification because of lack of self-control leading to impulsive reaction and adds to stress, aggression & pain.  Impatience also affects our power to tolerate, adjust or accept thus generates restless. The turbulence in the mind depletes our compassion, kindness & respect and results in development of fragile relationships.

Patience with self, people & situations makes us confident & like-able and brings peace, compassion & acceptance. Cultivating and nurturing patience requires taming our irritation, anger, anxiety, fear, doubt or judgment, comparison & competition.  The thoughts, feelings, motivations, attitudes & preferences are the outcome of our inner state. Self awareness gained via observing own ever-changing thoughts & emotions helps us get better understanding of the tendency of being engrossed in self-talk resulting in unhappiness.

 Getting stuck in life is a part of journey and frustrating. The fears of change when the situation is out of our control makes our mind stagnate. Let go of judging self and make conclusions. Focus on admirable qualities & elevate thinking standards. Self introspection with the aid of someone whom we can trust to be sensitive & honest does help us to figure out the reasons if we listen with an open mind. Psychologists are trained professionals and the best bet to seek assistance.

Parent’s social relationships, interpersonal & intrapersonal interactions, behaviour patterns are keenly observed by children while growing up. Childhood perceptions so built up by them in the course of upbringing contributes to making & development of their personality. Parent’s endeavour must be to provide an environment at home conducive for the child’s healthy growth, study & preparation for bright future. Focus needs to be on the feel good factor of child.  An optimum assertiveness punctuated with warmth is desirable for a disciplined upbringing. Regular conversation, face to face social interaction, acknowledgement, recognition for small-big achievements & rewards, leisure time physical activity like outdoor sports, and vacation amongst nature helps child acquire skills to sustain cut throat competition. Impressionable minds must not be allowed to waste time and energy in virtual & deceptive world of the digital technology (smart phones etc), the latest addiction pushing them into their cocoons (physical & mental isolation).   

 

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Joy & happiness are two different positive emotions. One is a positive force that stays for longer periods of time, maybe even permanently as a person grows older.

Everyone wants to be happy. Happiness is a more material-based emotion & involves positive outside force that affects you personally. Happiness is elation, sudden pure excitement, in response to some sort of great news/happening and is short-lived.

Joy is a permanent part of your life. It is a mindset, a characteristic, the strength within self that holds a long-term feeling of contentment derived from accomplishing something you’ve been trying for a while & finally achieving what you’ve set out to do. It is about knowing your own self-worth, love for self & being at peace within despite any negativity in your environment. Joy is diminished only if you react negatively to the situation all the time. Joy is in thankfulness, as you let someone know they are appreciated.