The expectations (disguised desires) generate conflict. Keep expectations little tempered because high expectations often lead to disappointments. Go with the flow in your struggle to grow own roots. Be patient and don’t give up in the face of frequent rejections. The insecurities, uncertainties and vagaries of life develop unfounded fears and frustration which brings in a state of helplessness and restlessness in mind. The impact is so immense it increases the level of anxiety beyond control and adversely affects mental health. The associated mental & emotional pain aggravates to the extent that one looses sense of well-being.