The Key to Self-Change.. Self-observation is the key to a higher order of awareness; it is how we learn to become inwardly vigilant to our own thoughts & feelings, even as they pass through us. To observe yourself means that you can't be self-absorbed. Higher awareness through self-observation increases your field of choices, because this elevated inner position places you high above the game & lets you see all of the players. On the other hand, self-absorption is like being on the field. Not only can you not see all of the players, but those that you can see are more often than not slamming into you, turning you around & around until you don't know which way to run. That's the whole point: stop running & bumping, and start seeing.