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Softening & Expanding - Being
Receptive to What You Want
Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise,
trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things &
still be calm in your heart.
In a world of harshness, it is time to soften &
expand how we go about our life. In order to get what
we want in life, we have to be willing to receive it when it appears & in
order to do that we have to be open. Often we go through life with defenses we
developed early on in order to protect ourselves. These defenses act as
barriers, walls we needed at one time to feel safe, but that now serve to shut
out desired influences, like intimacy or love. So an essential part of being
receptive to what we want is to soften these barriers enough to let those
things in when they show up. For example, we may spend a lot of time alone as a
way to protect ourselves from being hurt by other people, but we can see how
this is now preventing us from meeting new friends.
Another obstacle to our receptivity can be our tendency to
believe that we have to act aggressively in order to achieve our desired goal.
This can cause us to become mono-focused & to fail to see, & be open
to, opportunities on the periphery of our vision. So becoming receptive
involves a softening of our defenses & a willingness to remain open to
possibilities outside our immediate realm of vision. If we are looking for love
or friendship, it means first looking within ourselves to see where we are shut
down & second, not getting too fixated on where we might find the love we
want. In this way, we become more open as individuals & more expansive in
terms of what we see as possible.
Often, the things & people we want to draw into our lives
elude us because we are unconsciously blocking them out, either with our
defenses, or with tunnel vision that causes us to not see them when they
appear. When this is the case, we can take action by exploring & softening
our barriers, & expanding our vision to encompass new possibilities. These
actions are the essence of receptivity.