Expectations – make or break life an exciting experience.

Expectations – make or break life an exciting experience.

It is natural to have desires & expectations so do not resist or suppress. The result/outcome, many times, completely opposite to what one expects in particular makes one feel let down, creates anxiety & helplessness forcing one to conclude & believe that something is wrong about a particular happening. Expecting life to bring forth the desired in a manner planned with one’s limited intelligence on the actual path to desired reality/experience puts one under pressure.  The exciting experiences in life are temporary and the extra-ordinary expectations keeps one alienated from the reality of life. Expecting constantly in a manner that is pleasing makes one prisoner to the tendency to conclude/assume negatively about the situations but the best attitude a mature mind has is to see everything as a step towards a more positive reality. Staying positive irrespective of your present situation will keep you in alignment with your life force and bring forth the solutions that you desire. Do not cling to any particular result/outcome but trust life’s intelligence to bring forth the most congruent & positive reality that is far better than what you anticipate. It is fine to plan & follow your inspirations, but don’t create any rigid expectations about how your desired reality will manifest. Allow life to surprise you.

Dissatisfaction – support him/her

Dissatisfaction – support him/her

Dissatisfaction affects mood, self esteem and relationships. Our interpretation of other’s action/words as disrespectful pushes us into victimhood/self-pity mode and obstructs free expression of our viewpoint with confidence, humility and dexterity. It is of utmost importance to provide an environment in which one feels safe in personal expression during dialogue/conversation. Be warm to the person, listen & be sensitive to his/her ideas/opinion, empathise with his/her situation, avoid irrational reaction and celebrate his/her talent. Your concern, consideration and empathy shall inculcate in him/her a sense of security and respect. 

Psychological pressures - Take charge of your lives

Psychological pressures - Take charge of your lives

Psychological pressures due to the incessant demands, responsibilities and desires affect ones feeling of wellness, health and joy.  Feel centred and inculcate an intrinsic belief in universal force to keep yourself grounded and relaxed. Stepping away from troubling negative thoughts; observing inner silence for self reflection; Self discipline & control, awareness, letting go of the pent up emotions/feelings via regular exercise and meditation builds resilience to stress. Look after body & mind, eat healthy and sleep well. 

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Be comfortable within yourself and in the environment around you.

Be comfortable within yourself and in the environment around you.

Many a time one is bound to face stressful situations wherein one has absolutely no idea on how to deal with it and the same turns out to be a major concern, if left unattended. The stress and uncertainty dwells and makes one prone to sickness. An individual needs to stick to purpose of life, find ways and means to adapt to these situations. Controlling your thoughts, looking at the situation as a challenge rather than as threat, coming out of victim mode, being optimistic & believing in one’s own strengths, focusing on the change in life required for emotional balance and laughing away the overwhelming situation may help you lessen the stress. Professional help also guides one out the overwhelming stressful situations. Contact m-9872880634    

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Being dominant to gain respect is not advisable.

Fearing someone’s dominance is not necessarily the same as respecting him/her. Expectation of respect is natural to being human. It is normally lack of self-respect in an individual that a person seeks/demands respect from others through dominance, a form of the negative energy of fear, in the relationship. Dominance sometimes turns violent in a subtle way, harming the relationship in a big way. Others giving attention or being in awe of him/her is mistaken for being respected but the truth is it is impossible to give respect, if at the back of mind one fears him/her. The ego, an excessive attachment to one's false image, need to be recognized & no longer nourished instead respect other’s values, specialties, skills, virtues and powers to make him/her fearless, confident and capable of giving genuine respect.