Complexity of life can at times turn an aspiring, calm, composed, sensible, full of hope individual into an emotional wreck with totally shattered self-confidence when forced to lose prime time facing broken dreams. Carve a niche for self by challenging the acquired beliefs & faiths as you grew. Courage of conviction makes one question & defy laid down societal conventions that affect happiness.

Experiencing hot & cold behavior of a person affects adversely. Having attention now and the next moment disdain of a person close to you, it drives you crazy having repeated thoughts thus destroying mental peace completely. One is tricked into thinking “why” and a sense of distress engulfs mental peace. Have direct conversation with the person instead of assuming things and jumping to conclusions. Rather than investing too much time in anyone seeking validation shift focus to your creative pursuits which ensures that you maintain emotional balance and it helps build confidence & self esteem.    

 

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Feeling ignored without a cause induces a feeling of uncertainty that inflicts discomfort and a sense of emotional pain which shatters the person. The individual with poor communication & problem solving skills and passive personality traits instead of confronting the issue often resorts to shutting off self in own cocoon exhibiting symptoms of minor depression & anxiety. Running away from the problems and going silent might seem a quick & easy solution but it is nothing but devastating option. It disrupts the peace of mind of everyone around such an individual and takes a toll on their emotions also.  Be alarmed and speak to a psychologist.

Knowing perfect love – extended courtship lets one take care to get what one likes rather than end up liking what one gets in relationship. Disparate upbringing of partners makes one scrutinize other’s every spoken word & response to situations, learn & unlearn life skills to handle situations. Relationship is all about understanding what irritates one’s partner. We learn that certain situations do not merit reaction, one’s silence is better than meaningless words. Egotistic power – the power to dominate and control other to establish one’s superiority makes you disregard other’s opinion and has adverse consequences. The temptation to nurture one’s inflated ego through self promotion and urge to prove self as special does not let one see the uniqueness of other & appreciate the diverse articulation.     

 

Question: What do you mean by love? Jiddu Krishnamurti: We are going to discover by understanding what love is not, because, as love is the unknown, we must come to it by discarding the known. The unknown cannot be discovered by a mind that is full of the known. What we are going to do is to find out the values of the known, look at the known, and when that is looked at purely, without condemnation, the mind becomes free from the known; then we shall know what love is. So, we must approach love negatively, not positively. What is love with most of us? When we say we love somebody, what do we mean? We mean we possess that person. From that possession arises jealousy, because if I lose him or her what happens? I feel empty, lost; therefore I legalize possession; I hold him or her. From holding, possessing that person, there is jealousy, there is fear and all the innumerable conflicts that arise from possession. Surely such possession is not love, is it?

 

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