Knowing perfect love – extended courtship lets one take care to get what one likes rather than end up liking what one gets in relationship. Disparate upbringing of partners makes one scrutinize other’s every spoken word & response to situations, learn & unlearn life skills to handle situations. Relationship is all about understanding what irritates one’s partner. We learn that certain situations do not merit reaction, one’s silence is better than meaningless words. Egotistic power – the power to dominate and control other to establish one’s superiority makes you disregard other’s opinion and has adverse consequences. The temptation to nurture one’s inflated ego through self promotion and urge to prove self as special does not let one see the uniqueness of other & appreciate the diverse articulation.