It is also a waste of time & energy ..to find fault and blame other for your own turmoil. Habit of blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues. We put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that the other person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation. If you find that both of you are non receptive of each other's point of view...You need Couple counselling. Contact M-9872880634