Emotionally vulnerable

Today’s generation is emotionally vulnerable and prone to take to offence easily in the face of criticism and insults. Scolding at home, school, college, in public prompts one to take revenge in different form of actions including physical hurt to oneself, things and people around in order to release pent up feelings built up over a time. Personal Diary writing, a habit if cultivated, helps to express and understand one self. Personal Diary, a tool to communicate with self, is a hobby that helps one put daily one’s thoughts, feelings and emotions in a given stressful/happy incident of the day on paper honestly without any inhibition. Reading the diary later on, one gets a clear picture of what is going on within us, with us and around us. It helps in arranging one’s thought process opting for the positives rather than the negatives. Remembering the good/pleasant things that happened in one’s life cultivates a sense of gratitude and thereby drives one towards positive attitude. Reviewing one’s emotional response to pent up anxious feelings, at times destructive & detrimental, helps one admit and opt for course correction to turn negative feelings into positive ones.  This hobby helps in keeping emotional turmoil under check, cope with a situation, of disliking, in a healthier manner, releases stress built up due to pent up feelings providing relief and grow into a happy and fun loving human living.  

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Breaking of relationships.

Behavioral issues in a love relationship........

Life is not static but dynamic. Life means readjustment & adaptation.  At times one finds it difficult to adapt and adjust to circumstances. When the interaction just reduces to being judgmental and finding fault in each other, nagging each other, dominating each other in a bid to establish supremacy, questioning each and every action of each other, it drives you to developing hate and breakup of your delicate love relationships. Counseling helps in defining and maintaining meaningful relations. It helps in exploring the inner side of the person. It helps you to recognize the inner self and channelize energy into greater good. It helps in evaluation and understanding of the situation in a better way.  Contact m-9872880634

Stress in life

How much needless stress are you carrying around right now?  Do you feel burdened by life's uncontrollable circumstances & your own emotional issues?

Stress remains a part of life and its degree increases as we grow. Experiencing palpitation, uneasiness, fatigue etc are the symptoms when you need to take note of it as it is when you start loosing focus. It starts taking over your body and mind. It becomes a hindrance in your path of a happy living. The company of certain individuals strongly impacts state of mind, emotions and life as a whole. His/her behavior, attitude, approach etc, whether you like it or not, have a reason so do not judge instead try to find the reason and work around it. Instead of avoiding, dragging on living with relationships that lead to emotional turmoil transform the situation to understand/introspect and face your own barriers, break them and grow. It will help you respond introspectively instead of predictable reactive mode. The most logical way is to keep interacting that will help you understand their thoughts, perceptions and belief thus keeps your negative emotions in check helping you work on possibilities and keep yourself in control of the situation.  Always remain motivated. Remain enthusiastic. Life is dynamic. Circumstances keep changing. Keeping your hobby alive and kicking is the best stress buster to reduce mental stress. Surround yourself with people full of enthusiasm and action.        

Becoming more grounded & happy starts with letting go of worry & stress. Counselling session helps you learn to have hold on your will power.  Contact m-9872880634

Searching for belongingness with strangers on social media.

Today’s interaction on social media (virtual communication) expressing our feelings without any inhibitions, fear of repercussions is gripping majority of us. Why is it so that even while sitting along with few and far less acquaintances we have today, we are busy on our mobiles. It is because we invariably get together with specific reasons and vested interests. It is a fact that we gel together with people with whom we may have some work with at any point of life. Otherwise we are lonely, as practically we do not find any one available when you really want to chat or share. So we opt for social media searching for belongingness with strangers. The anonymous people on social media acknowledge our feelings that makes us feel we are not alone and helps in off loading all that we are going through and make us feel important. This loneliness over a period develops into depression. One may require counseling to get rid of this habit. Contact m-9872880634        

If your child seems to be Aloof or Stressed , A Counselling session is required..Contact for appointment with pschychlogist and counselor in Chandigarh.Contact at 9872880634..... Aloof: This group is indifferent in all situations, particularly marked with peers, though approaching to get needs met and often enjoying physical interactions.

Words of German poet and novelist Hermann Hesse

“The high value put upon every minute of time, the idea of hurry-hurry as the most important objective of living, is unquestionably the most dangerous enemy of joy”

When being in a flux

Doubtfulness, identity crisis, swinging between overconfidence and a complete lack of it, being at cross road and deciding which way to proceed for personal and professional future –a time one is in a flux with lot of queries and no help at hand seeking Professional counseling is the best bet one has at that point of time.

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Internet addiction disorder (IAD).... Also known as problematic Internet use or pathological Internet use, refers to excessive Internet use that interferes with daily life. There is behavioral dependence on internet use. Adolescents (12–17 years) and emerging adults (18–29 years) access the Internet more than any other age groups and undertake a higher risk of overuse of the internet. The IAD is so much in young children that it significantly affects their concentration, social behaviour and performance. If you feel/observe your child/ teenager or yourself is now on the way to be a case of Internet Addiction Disorder Contact for Counselling session.For appointment contact us at 9862880634

Internet addiction disorder (IAD).... Also known as problematic Internet use or pathological Internet use, refers to excessive Internet use that interferes with daily life.  There is behavioral dependence on internet use. Adolescents (12–17 years) and emerging adults (18–29 years) access the Internet more than any other age groups and undertake a higher risk of overuse of the internet. The IAD is so much in young children that it significantly affects their concentration, social behaviour and performance.  If you feel/observe your child/ teenager or yourself is now on the way to be a case of Internet Addiction Disorder Contact for Counselling session.For appointment contact us at 9862880634

Helplessness

Interactions with others he/she of whatever age impacts ones thought process and action to different degrees and makes one question and rethink about ones own behavior. Helplessness is a source of endless sufferings.  Optimism/Hope as against helplessness improves the quality of life one leads.  Childhood, adolescence and education shapes ones future. Psychology is the science of addressing ones troubles/ mental illness and helps one to manage his/her life. It guides one to self discovery to live a purposeful life with passion. Break the social barriers, inhibition and consult psychologist as and when you start feeling helplessness. 

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Child psychologist Chandigarh.... Why can’t my child make friends? This can be a difficult question to ask yourself. But if your child rarely gets invited on play dates and spends most of his time alone at home, it can be hard not to wonder—and worry. For kids of all ages, friendships offer the acceptance, approval and sense of belonging they crave. If your child struggles to connect with other kids and form friendships, it can be a blow to his self-esteem or leave him feeling alone and frustrated. What Can Cause Trouble With Making Friends “If your child’s learning and attention issues cause him to have a hard time making friends, there are ways to improve his social skills.” ADHD: Kids with ADHD may lack self-control, be overactive, talk too much, talk without thinking or not pay attention to what other people are saying. Executive functioning issues:Children with executive functioning issues may have trouble sharing, taking turns, controlling emotions and accepting other viewpoints. Nonverbal learning disabilities(NVLD): Kids with NVLD may miss social cues like body language, expression and tone of voice. They may not understand humor or sarcasm and may take what others say too literally. Language disorders: Children with language disorders may not understand the rules of conversation or may have trouble finding the right words. They may avoid talking when around other kids. For appointment contact at 9872880634

OCD... Role of CDT..

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कैसे पता करें कि आपको OCD है या नहीं –

अगर किसी इंसान को OCD है तो वो दिन में बार बार अपने हाथों को साबुन से धोएगा। उसे चिंता या घबराहट लगी रहेगी कि कहीं उसके हाथ गंदे तो नहीं है या फिर उनमें germs तो नहीं है।चलते चलते सड़क पर बिजली के खंभों या पेड़ो को गिनने की तेज इच्छा होना या उन्हे छूते हुए निकलना।पैसो को बार बार गिनना।बार-बार नहाना या फिर दिन मे कई बार घर की सफाई करते रहना।कुछ विचार(thoughts) या छवि(images) मन में बार बार आते रहते है और इंसान उन पर काबू नहीं पा पाता।ऐसे लोगों मे किसी दूसरे इंसान को बिना बात पर नुकसान पहुंचाने का डर भी रहता है इसलिए ये चाकू और आग जैसी चीजों से दूरी बनाकर रखते है।दूसरे लोगों की तुलना मे ज्यादा परेशान हो जाना अगर चीजे बिल्कुल सही ढंग से या सही जगह पर न हो। उदाहरण के लिए अगर किताबें अलमारी मे ठीक ढंग से न रखी हों।अपने आप से लगातार बहस करते रहना कि इस काम को करुँ या दूसरे काम को करुँ। इस तरह इंसान एक छोटा सा निर्णय(Decision) भी नहीं कर पाता।दूसरों से बार-बार पूछते रहना कि सब कुछ ठीक है या नही।किसी एक काम को बार बार करना (Repeating)। for example – किसी एक चीज को बार बार पढना या लिखना।फालतू चीजों को घर मे जमा करके रखना, जैसे खाने के खाली डिब्बे, फटे हुए कपड़े।नैतिक या धार्मिक विचारों पर पागलपन की हद तक ध्यान देना।

अगर इस तरह के लक्षण किसी इंसान मे 6 महीने से ज्यादा समय से है और अगर इस से उनकी daily routine मे कोई प्रभाव पड़ रहा है तो उन्हे अॅब्सेसिव कंपल्सिव डिसऑर्डर हो सकता है। लेकिन अगर किसी इंसान का  दोहराने वाला व्यवहार खुशी  देने वाला है तो यह OCD नहीं होता जैसे, जुआ खेलने की आदत, ड्रग्स लेना या  शराब पीना।

क्यो होता है Obsessive compulsive disorder ?

OCD होने हा मुख्य कारण है मष्तिष्क (Brain) में कुछ खास किस्म के रसायनों (chemicals) के level में गड़बड़ी होना है, जैसे कि सेरोटोनिन (Serotonin) आदि। रिसर्च मे पाया गया है की OCD एक पीढ़ी से दूसरी पीढ़ी मे आता है। अगर किसी के माता पिता को OCD है तो उनके बच्चो को भी OCD होने की संभावना होती है।

अगर कोई इंसान  साफ सफाई मे बहुत ज्यादा ध्यान देता है  या हर काम को perfection से करता है और ऊँचे नैतिक सिद्धान्तों वाले इंसान हैं तो उसे OCD होने की ज्यादा सम्भावना होती है।

OCD कब शुरू हो सकता है?

Obsessive–compulsive disorder किसी भी इंसान को किसी भी उम्र मे हो सकता है। लक्षण (symptoms) समय के साथ आ और जा सकते है। इस बीमारी का पहला पड़ाव है 10 से 12 साल के बच्चों का और दूसरा  20-25 साल पर शुरू हो जाता है। आंकड़ों पर गौर करें  तो लगभग हर 50 में से एक इंसान को अपनी ज़िंदगी में ओसीडी हो सकता है। यानि ये इतनी uncommon problem नहीं है, और अगर unfortunately आपको या आपके किसी जानने वाले को है तो इसमें शर्म कि कोई बात नहीं, बस किसी भी और बिमारी की तरह इसका इलाज कराने की ज़रूरत है।

वहीँ जिन्हें ये बिमारी नहीं है उन्हें भी OCD से ग्रसित लोगों को अलग नज़र से नही देखना चाहिए, ये तो बस chemical disbalance का रिजल्ट है और ये कल को किसी के साथ भी हो सकता है!

क्या हैं इलाज़ ...

मामूली OCD वाले बहुत से लोग बिना इलाज के ही अपने आप ही ठीक हो जाते हैं। मध्यम से गम्भीर तीव्रता के OCD वालों को इलाज़ की जरूरत पड़ती है  हालाकि किसी-किसी समय उनके लक्षण खत्म होते हुए दिखाई देते हैं लेकिन कुछ समय बाद फिर से दिखाई दे सकते है । तीव्र ओसीडी से पीड़ित लोगों मे तनाव या उदासी देखी जा सकती है। इनके लिए इलाज मददगार होगा।

आजकल obsessive compulsive disorder के इलाज़ के आधुनिक तरीकों से मरीजों को काफी राहत देना संभव है। हाँ,  इसके इलाज का असर का पता चलने में 6-7 हफ्ते या उससे ज्यादा समय  भी लग सकता है। इसके इलाज़ में जितना दवाइयो का महत्व है उतना ही महत्व मनोवैज्ञानिक पद्धति से इलाज का है जिसे psychotherapy and CDT कहा जाता है।

कई लोग शर्म  की वजह से (लोग क्या कहेंगें) या उनपर पागलपन का ठप्पा लगने के ड़र से मनोवैज्ञानिक समस्याओ को छुपाते है और तकलीफ़ों को सहन करते रहते है जिसकी वजह से तकलीफ और ज्यादा बढ़ जाती है। यह रवैया दिक्कत को कम करने की बजाय ओर बढ़ा देता है।

Bullying and it's effects on Child... Bullying is an attempt, usually a systematic and ongoing one, to undermine and harm someone based on some perceived weakness. Although commonly associated with children, bullying can occur at any age. . A child who experiences mental or emotional health effects as a result of bullying may find it helpful to seek Counselling from Child pschychlogist and counselor .For appointment in Chandigarh contact at 9872880634.

Self Doubt.... Counselling session helps you to overcome it. For appointment contact us at 9872880634 in Chandigarh... Whenever self doubt arises, know that we are not in the continuum of the present moments. Regrets belong to the past, fears to the future & joy is in the present. So let us be present, in the here & now. Free flowing & unfettered. Self doubt arises from self importance & both have the word ‘self’ in them. Dissolve the self, the ego & all problems vanish. Instantly.

CDT for OCD.... What is obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)? Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder characterized by uncontrollable, unwanted thoughts and ritualized, repetitive behaviors you feel compelled to perform. If you have OCD, you probably recognize that your obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors are irrational—but even so, you feel unable to resist them and break free. Like a needle getting stuck on an old record, OCD causes the brain to get stuck on a particular thought or urge. For example, you may check the stove 20 times to make sure it’s really turned off, or wash your hands until they’re scrubbed raw. While you don't derive any sense of pleasure from performing these repetitive behaviors, they may offer some passing relief for the anxiety generated by the obsessive thoughts. You may try to avoid situations that trigger or worsen your symptoms or self-medicate with alcohol or drugs. But while it can seem like there’s no escaping your obsessions and compulsions, there are plenty of things you can do to help yourself and regain control of your thoughts and actions. OCD obsessions and compulsions Obsessions are involuntary thoughts, images, or impulses that occur over and over again in your mind. You don’t want to have these ideas, but you can’t stop them. Unfortunately, these obsessive thoughts are often disturbing and distracting. Compulsions are behaviors or rituals that you feel driven to act out again and again. Usually, compulsions are performed in an attempt to make obsessions go away. For example, if you’re afraid of contamination, you might develop elaborate cleaning rituals. However, the relief never lasts. In fact, the obsessive thoughts usually come back stronger. And the compulsive rituals and behaviors often end up causing anxiety themselves as they become more demanding and time-consuming. This is the vicious cycle of OCD. OCD cycle Most people with OCD fall into one of the following categories: Washers are afraid of contamination. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions. Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or danger. Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn’t perfect or done just right something terrible will happen, or they will be punished. Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about certain numbers, colors, or arrangements. Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things that they don't need or use. They may also suffer from other disorders, such as depression, PTSD, compulsive buying, kleptomania, ADHD, skin picking, or tic disorders. OCD signs and symptoms Just because you have obsessive thoughts or perform compulsive behaviors does NOT mean that you have obsessive-compulsive disorder. With OCD, these thoughts and behaviors cause tremendous distress, take up a lot of time (at least one hour per day), and interfere with your daily life and relationships. Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder have both obsessions and compulsions, but some people experience just one or the other. Common obsessive thoughts in OCD include: Fear of being contaminated by germs or dirt or contaminating others Fear of losing control and harming yourself or others Intrusive sexually explicit or violent thoughts and images Excessive focus on religious or moral ideas Fear of losing or not having things you might need Order and symmetry: the idea that everything must line up “just right” Superstitions; excessive attention to something considered lucky or unlucky Common compulsive behaviors in OCD include: Excessive double-checking of things, such as locks, appliances, and switches Repeatedly checking in on loved ones to make sure they’re safe Counting, tapping, repeating certain words, or doing other senseless things to reduce anxiety Spending a lot of time washing or cleaning Ordering or arranging things “just so” Praying excessively or engaging in rituals triggered by religious fear Accumulating “junk” such as old newspapers or empty food containers OCD symptoms in children While the onset of obsessive-compulsive disorder usually occurs during adolescence or young adulthood, younger children sometimes have symptoms that look like OCD. However, the symptoms of other disorders, such as ADHD, autism, and Tourette’s syndrome, can also look like obsessive-compulsive disorder, so a thorough medical and psychological exam is essential before any diagnosis is made. OCD self-help tip 1: Learn how to resist OCD rituals No matter how overwhelming your OCD symptoms seem, there are many ways you can help yourself. One of the most powerful strategies is to eliminate the compulsive behaviors and rituals that keep your obsessions going. Don’t avoid your fears. It might seem smart to avoid the situations that trigger your obsessive thoughts, but the more you avoid them, the scarier they feel. Instead, expose yourself to your OCD triggers, then try to resist or delay the urge to complete your relief-seeking compulsive ritual. If resistance gets to be too hard, try to reduce the amount of time you spend on your ritual. Each time you expose yourself to your trigger, your anxiety should lessen and you’ll start to realize that you have more control (and less to fear) than you contact us for CDT ... contact us at 9872880634

Be in love with self

 Be in love with self

Individuals who are mentally tough perform better. They exhibit features like grandiosity, entitlement, dominance and superiority. They strongly believe that they are better than others and deserve reward. They embrace challenges as opportunity for personal growth. The heightened sense of self worth make them motivated, assertive and successful. They can perform at their very best in pressure and diverse conditions.

Psychological traits of being a joyful human being.

Psychological traits of being a joyful human being.

A happy, healthy, loved and contended person exhibits strong will power & resilience in the face of adverse situations. His/her emotional stability helps him take control of life, keeps him motivated to pursue goals that are not easily achievable and perform well in real world.  His/her high self esteem inspires him to be in healthy competition leading to healthy growth and personal satisfaction.

Blaming other is a waste of your time and energy

It is also a waste of time & energy ..to find fault and blame other for your own turmoil. Habit of blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues. We put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that the other person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation.

If you find that both of you are non receptive of each other's point of view...You need Couple counselling. Contact M-9872880634