Provocative & contrary dialogue ends up in arguments. The feeling of being taken for granted to conform to expectations makes a child resentful. Fear of scrutiny, comparison, criticism & rejection always dictates the response. Displeasure & frustration expressed in the form of anger to dissuade children makes them feel helpless and takes away the intent to listen and speak without fear about their anxieties. A belief something intrinsically wrong with them, they are unworthy and do not deserve patient hearing destroys their uniqueness & inspiration to learn to sustain themselves in challenging times.