Overindulgence in according priority to partner’s needs & comfort, devoid of open discussion at the cost of own happiness, makes you compromise and letting take advantage of your flexibility.  Stop justifying self by giving clarifications to a stubborn unaccommodating partner who pays no heed. Their ego stops them from taking things in stride leading to conflicts. Introspect/self reflect and re-evaluate the desire to continue with relationship. If you always carry a feeling of uncertainty, it makes you anxious or depressed. Breakup affects the psyche and emotional well being making you feel lost & lonely. Consult a professional together to facilitate open discussion to tackle the simmering issues that result in conflicts. Do not lose faith in self, hold on to your confidence, develop a positive self image and derive emotional gratification in creative activities that help build meaningful, fulfilling and better life.            

Are you completely shattered, facing rejections in your struggle? The key is to think positive and keep working, to go with the flow, your plans that fell apart shall fall in place and life will get back to normal. Do not be afraid of meeting people, escapism is not the solution. Reminisce those good old days when you were full of life. Spend time with family & friends who support you selflessly and relish the true happiness surrounded by your loved ones. 

Child’s self and identity is built upon the way we value them as good or bad, smart or dumb, obedient or rebellious etc. Each child experiences life differently. Some might struggle with acquisition of skills to meet expectations. They struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, abuse, addiction etc that stigmatizes & robs them of their dignity. Parent’s commitment to do whatever is best for their children so that they are not deprived of simple experiences of life is unquestionable. Validate their hard work via recognition and reward. Empowered by validation one sheds fear of judgment and unleashes limitless energetic self in pursuing his/her strong belief in the dream passionately.

 

Struggling to fight stress due to facing tough challenges to survive & strive, work on your communication & behavior. Expressing your grief via silence shall not help, speak to professional who looks at it from your perspective. The more you explore the more you discover.

 

Listen with humility & openness to acknowledge, respect and respond with love & compassion to partner’s angst. Conversation encourages one, steadfast in resolve to find amicable solution to existing mistrust, to come out and express truthfully his/her dilemma.  The adamancy on anyone’s part results in loss of sympathy and thus limits the choice to compromise.

 

Efforts to imbibe partner’s hobbies & interests in life to cement relationship bond prove frustrating with a non committal partner. The struggle & suffering of an individual when treated insensitively makes him/her feel sensitive and act irritable or defensive. Professional help listens attentively, patiently & non-judgmentally, is reassuring and does not give unsolicited advice. One must never ever loose sight of own passion in any situation.

 

Grappling with depression, anxiety, irritability, anger, intolerance and frustration. Lack of social support system i.e absence of friends & relatives in whom one can confide without inhibition, loneliness, uncertainty & fear of the unknown, adverse childhood experience e.g, physical, emotional or sexual abuse are some of the reasons for the situation. Devise own strategy/cope mechanism with professional help rather than suffering in silence.      

 

The restrictions & confinement tests the elasticity of human ties. The fear and anxiety due to loss of independence and privacy on account of unwarranted surveillance results in trespassing in each other’s personal space and gives rise to conflicts. The human traits e.g, apprehensiveness and tendency to feel low makes an individual vulnerable to lose one’s composure and affects the human mind. The lack of interaction leads to decline in communicative and expressing skills. The frustration & suffocation experienced on account of preaching and judgments rather than listening by the other results in irritability, mood swings, rebellion & argumentativeness. Listen, do not impose your thinking, let one commit mistakes and learn from them.        

Understanding Attachment The confusion between love & attachment has entered into all our relationships in a number of ways. To our conditioned minds it appears to be a contradiction (error), but it is a basic spiritual truth - to be loving it is necessary to be detached. Attachment is the root of fear and fear & love cannot exist together just as day & night, winter & summer cannot. The idea & the practice of detachment are found in almost all the paths of wisdom, over the centuries. This is so because attachment is one of the deepest habits that we learn to develop & we do not realize that anything we attach ourselves to turns into a trap for our consciousness, for the self, the being. We know we are attached when we begin to think about someone or something when they are not present & there is no need to think about them. Our mental energy exhausts itself & we have the sensation that we lack control over our thoughts & feelings. Each time that we automatically cling (hold on) to something, we invoke (call for or attract) the presence of fear - whether it be of people, position, power, money or even opinion, any form of attachment means that we will fear harm or loss. Fear takes on many faces (worry, anxiety & tension); it prevents our spiritual growth & frightens us away from or blocks us from love.

 

Understanding Attachment The confusion between love & attachment has entered into all our relationships in a number of ways. To our conditioned minds it appears to be a contradiction (error), but it is a basic spiritual truth - to be loving it is necessary to be detached. Attachment is the root of fear and fear & love cannot exist together just as day & night, winter & summer cannot. The idea & the practice of detachment are found in almost all the paths of wisdom, over the centuries. This is so because attachment is one of the deepest habits that we learn to develop & we do not realize that anything we attach ourselves to turns into a trap for our consciousness, for the self, the being. We know we are attached when we begin to think about someone or something when they are not present & there is no need to think about them. Our mental energy exhausts itself & we have the sensation that we lack control over our thoughts & feelings. Each time that we automatically cling (hold on) to something, we invoke (call for or attract) the presence of fear - whether it be of people, position, power, money or even opinion, any form of attachment means that we will fear harm or loss. Fear takes on many faces (worry, anxiety & tension); it prevents our spiritual growth & frightens us away from or blocks us from love.

 

We all need to be constantly sharpened. This parable may encourage us to know that we are special individuals, with unique talents & abilities. Only a particular individual or person can fulfill the purpose for which he / she was born to accomplish. Therefore, never allow yourself to get discouraged & think that your life is insignificant & that you cannot make any change and, like the pencil, always remember that the most important part of who you are is what’s inside of you & not how you appear to yourself and others on the outside.

 

 

The sense of relatability and connection to each other is affected due to deprivation of love. One’s response must be realist and positive in all interactions. Endeavour must be to forge solid ties that none ever desires to fill the vacuum.